I just finished “The Third Charm”, and this was a drama that made me angry after investing my time in this disappointing program. I thought that his was a new drama when it came up on Netflix as a New Release, I wished that I had seen that it was several years old and I had checked the reviews. I think that potential viewers were misled by the producers and broadcasters for this drama. This was a classic bait and switch, the promo and introduction for the drama seems to promise a lighthearted romcom, the first few episodes lived up to the promise, but by the end we have was a gloomy story that disappointed on so many levels. Even the artwork for the show was misleading, it shows the male and female leads together in Portugal, although they were both in Lisbon at the same time they never met.

I don’t even understand the significance of the title “The Third Charm”, I was thinking that this was a reference to the common phrase third time is the charm, to say that two attempts failed but the third will be successful. This would lead someone to think that they will have a successful third reunion. They met for a third time, but it was not a lucky charm.

I have done some thinking about why this drama didn’t work for me. It just didn't feel like there was a coherent story line and the screenwriters lost, or never had an idea where they wanted to go with the story. Some of my issues come down to the ending, and I have read some of the comments and most seem to agree that the ending was not the best, although some say it was “realistic”. I don’t agree that the ending was realistic, and in thinking about it, by the end of episode 16, I didn’t care if they got together. The series could have ended at the end of episode 10, with some additional scenes clean up some of the other characters story arc’s and I think that it could have been more satisfying.

The first two episodes were excellent, and I was expecting a solid series. The nerd meeting the beautiful girl and falling in love with each other was well done. Unfortunately, it didn’t work out due to Yeong-Jae’s family tragedy. Although short lived, their time together seems to have been meaningful to both. For Joon-Yeong it devastated his already low self confidence and impacted his ability to trust women.

I think that this was the basis of his major character flaw which was the inability to trust Yeong-Jae. But her relationship with the creepy doctor didn’t help him. I think in the beginning of a relationship a couple needs to develop trust and this happens through communication, a skill lacking in both. Joon-Yeong would ghost Yeong-Jae whenever anything upsetting happened rather than confronting the issue.

But my biggest issue with the drama is that I consider Yeong-Jae to be emotionally cheating on Joon-Yeong. The haircut when the creepy doctor reached out and touched her shoulder, and all the “accidental” meetings often at difficult times. The creepy doctor was not an old friend, and his intentions were obvious. The Birthday dinner and the spicy food dinner, the singing in the street to Yeong-Jae. Although she was clear that she had a boyfriend, she should never have agreed to meet him, especially knowing the impact on Joon-Yeong. When they had the volunteer trip to the island, “we can’t uninvite him now”. If there was any respect for Joon-Yeong’s feelings they would have asked the creepy doctor not to come.

Joon-Yeong knew from the beginning what the doctor was trying to do. Yeong-Jae wouldn’t acknowledge his concerns and even when she saw the creepy doctor ogling her “sexy” photos, she acted like it was only a friendship. If you consider the bulk of issues between the two, the majority were related to the creepy doctor. When she showed up at the restaurant married to the creepy doctor it only confirmed that Joon-Yeong had every right to be concerned. This was also the point when I no longer cared what happened to their relationship and didn’t want them to get back together.

The screenwriters tried to explain away the marriage that he wooed her after her breakup this is not in keeping with the events shown in the drama. Based on the age of her child he married the creepy doctor was not long after the breakup. Her love for Joon-Yeong wasn’t that important to her, or she was following through on her desire to be rich. The change in her economic status in Portugal when compared to Joon-Yeong was striking.

The reasons for their second breakup never made sense to me. Yeong-Jae felt that she was growing and changing but Joon-Yeong wasn’t. Yeong-Jae never gave him the feedback he needed to grow and to better support her, she kept it bottled up inside. She thought that being with someone who liked spicy food was more important than a person who loved her. Joon-Yeong's career was taking off, he was leading a major crime unit, his team took down a major criminal. He was going to be given a commendation medal for his work. He was destined for great things in the police force. She was a hairdresser although she was having success it was not more impressive than Joon-Yeong. She didn’t want to keep hurting him, well stopping cheating and communicating could have gone a long way in achieving that.

I liked the Joon-Yeong character, but what he did to Se-eun was unforgivable. The writers tried to minimize Se-eun, having her say that she isn’t brave or was a weak person. I think that Se-eun showed great strength and bravery, “Bravery Is Not the Absence Of Fear; It Is Being Afraid And Doing It Anyway”. Se-eun, although scared to death went undercover to meet the Snakehead. Se-eun also flew halfway around the world alone and had the courage to announce her love to Joon-Yeong although this was totally out of character. What Joon-Yeong did to her was almost a mirror of what Yeong-Jae did to him, emotionally cheating and not being honest and throwing her aside when all she did was show love and loyalty. She was a much nicer person than Yeong-Jae.

For Yeong-Jae, the writers used the nuclear option and the death of a child plotline. How could you ever rebuild a romance without another time skip. The death of the child was cheap technique to build sympathy for an unsympathetic character. Yeong-Jae’s drunken phone call to Joon-Yeon about having nobody, she drove everyone who cared for her away, she was reaping what she sowed.

Joon-Yeon was a fool, he threw everything away for a woman with whom he had spent less than 6 months of his life and brought him only misery. Sure, people can carry a torch for a person after the end of a relationship, but after having such a short time together and much of it being filled with angst, I don’t see why he would want to restart anything with her. And even after ending things with Se-eun, he once again left Korea to become a celebrity chef. Yeong-Jae buys a beauty salon in her old neighborhood. Their life goals seemed to have reversed and were not compatible.

By episode 16, I no longer cared about the two of them, there was too much drama, too much tragedy, and too many coincidences, chance meetings and misunderstandings. The whole drama became overbearing. A lesson for the screenwriters is that sometimes less is more, the screenwriters used a sledgehammer to drive emotional engagement, where a well-crafted story would have worked better.

I recently watched “Our Beloved Summer” and “Twenty-Five, Twenty-One” two drama about young love and the challenges of evolving in adulthood. Both did a much better job of exploring the subject.

I do wonder how a drama like this was ever aired, don’t they do any audience testing like they do for movies? If they did, I think that they would have made a few major edits to the plot.