Bo ra! Deborah: Uma História Agridoce (2023)

True BS

OK, now I'm angry!
Utilising the memory of the Holocaust to justify vanity, pettiness and revenge is simply inconceivable. This is especially gross now that we're witnessing another holocaust, and constantly see men, women and children starved to death with no access to anything, not even rainwater. I know this was written before what we're witnessing in Palestine, but it still wouldn't sit well with me before, anyway.
I can't even finish this drama now. I already had my doubts this was going somewhere once Trump was cited as a "successful businessman" (the man is a fascist war criminal, as are most US presidents), but this usage of a Holocaust reality is beyond tone-deaf. She's comparing basic hygiene and dignity in an oppressive situation to dolling up to get a man so she gets revenge or doesn't stay single, as if being single is worse than being a victim of genocide.
Equating being single to something you need to survive as if a holocaust is ignorant, ridiculous and infuriating. I thought that at some point the story would turn around and show some sort of redemption but that's just how the writer and everyone involved in this drama see people. After this, there's no possible redemption. I'm trying very hard not to insult anyone right now. I know the team has apologised for the insensitive use of the holocaust but I don't accept the apology. The rest of the drama I've watched so far tells me it's not an incident, it's a default. I don't think I have rated a drama so low but this is just how angry I am.

I don't see love anywhere in this drama. I see grift, ridiculousness, over-the-top unnecessary drama and a whole lot of cringe. They even go as far as simulating a suicide as if it's some kind of joke! ffs
She never loved her boyfriend, she wanted a marriage, a status and she was manipulating her way into it and teaching everyone around her how to manipulate their relationships. She did see through people who had no connection to her but was incapable of minor self-reflection. That being said, it's not her fault that her boyfriend cheated on her and remained in a relationship he no longer wanted. Her whole grift isn't about love, it's about fulfilling an image inside a box society carves for women at the expense of their own self.
Everyone here seems to be an a-hole and they don't learn from their mistakes.

Bora's actions after the break-up are completely out of character and make no sense as a 30 yo with a solid career. Making her go through this drama and destroy her whole career, image and finances to justify working for people who have badmouthed her is basic. All because of an a-hole she didn't even love and who cheated on her?! The worst part is that she doesn't even learn anything from her mistakes and doubles down on the bad takes, manipulation and petty drama. The ML has seen her at her worst and helped her, he picked her up when she made a fool of herself in front of her ex. Why should she be ashamed of peeing on the street, when he didn't even see her do it, to the point of refusing to meet him, talk to him and even faking an illness? It makes absolutely no sense.

Instead of learning from that, she then doubles down when it comes to the kiss. It's so pathetic that it gets too uncomfortable to watch. The kiss had no chemistry. It looked like it was made to make the FL look like a beautiful statue more than anything.

The other relationships portrayed are no better. Her friend finds out her husband doesn't see her as a woman and doesn't even want to have sex with her and she accepts it as if it's normal. There's not even a level of companionship, they're roommates and that's it. That's not a marriage. They're not honest with each other, don't spend time alone, don't like each other's presence. It's as if she proposed because it's the next thing to do and he accepted because that's the way it is. If feel like someone made them get married and they didn't want to. It also plays the stereotype that married couples hate each other. Just get a fcking divorce and go be happy on your own!
She works, she should have her own money, even if she is married. Why does she have to make such a fuss about buying a bag? Why should she want to buy such an expensive bag? Bags aren't a form of investment, they're accessories and should be treated as such. I don't understand this type of consumerism. It makes no sense. Her husband has a "man cave" that is completely hidden from his wife. He's not even doing anything "illegal" there. He just wants to escape and be alone (meaning without her). Why are they even married? Because society says so? Because that's the path everyone has to take? Is it really? Is that really a life?

Her sister's relationship is no better. She's involved with a guy who only saw her once and is infatuated with her, saying he loves her when he doesn't even know her. Instead of trying to get to know her, he drills her with catchphrases and accepts all the bullying he gets from her. It's normal to be infatuated with someone, it's not normal to treat that as love. I know they're young but that's no excuse.

Insinuating a relationship between a man in his 40s or 50s and basically a baby! that girl is a baby! is so extremely problematic. She's not going to fix his commitment and communication issues. She's not the solution to a man baby. She should be living her life and meeting people who are in the same stage in life as she is and not putting herself in a relationship with such obvious power dynamics that won't work in her favour. Besides being as old as her father, he's her boss. No good thing can come from that relationship. Deciding to make her the pursuer in this relationship is also a choice since most women in their late teens and 20s are the ones who are typically approached by men in their 40s, 50s and beyond because they want someone whom they can control and won't demand accountability for their actions or lack thereof.

Anyway, I'm not watching any more of this. I'm not wasting my time on people who have nothing of importance to say. And it's not even fun. It's annoying and over-the-top cringe.
Of course, not every drama needs to cater to the same audience, but they need to abide by basic human decency and that means not demeaning important events and treating people as equal human beings. That's just basic.

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nevrotic love stories

some people might say this is a realistic love story, and every side story couple stages a love story at different stages, whatever... sorry but bloody breaks up are not on my schedule and have never been. being shabby, petty and harsh in your relationship is also not on my plan. of course this does exist, I know, I saw this around me, but this is bad. this is bad behavior, not realistic one. and I don't watch dramas for (shabby) realistic stories. I can watch them around me. I really didn't appreciate this drama and I wouldn't recommend.
if you want to be bored, annoyed and pissed, be my guest and go on. every character is petty and boring. I'd choose non of them as a friend or as a partner. so it's very difficult for me to just stand them for as long as 4 episodes. I am dropping.

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A clever series imbedded with interesting references

This series is utterly captivating, relatable and true to its theme! It’s all about love, including ups and downs, as well as the awkward and sometimes humiliating breakup arguments. You can see all that through four distinct couples at different relationship stages. It’s not just another rom-com, its written in a very smart way where it's full with references to books, people, shows and characters and that what make the show really enjoyable.
When you watch it, you find yourself giggling and cringing on behalf of the characters, where you smile and feel touched by the situations and scenes. The characters and their storylines are very relatable, as we all recognize that clingy friend who couldn’t get over her ex because they didn’t have a proper closure.
Everyone is the protagonist of their own love story. A lot of these protagonists think that they’re true to their love and they’re the ones who’s making all the sacrifices just because there is a lack of communication in their relationship. This series is a breath of fresh air, everything about it is lovable, and every scene holds a meaning and one can resonate with it.

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An unexpected gem

I found out about this series after watching a video on least popular K dramas this year. For some reason, this drama did not have very high ratings in Korea, even though there are popular actors in it. Whatever the reason, maybe something more popular opposite it, it still sounded interesting. So I took the chance and glad I did. It is a romcom with a twist, not following the typical storyline.

What I liked: the storyline was unique. Instead of the usual, meet cute, breaking up over trivia and reuniting, this followed the aftermath of a soul crushing breakup. The writing was a cut above a typical drama, realistic, at times heartbreaking, and other times amusing. I enjoyed the leads, both did a good job. The ending was positive, but not all tied up with a bow. We saw the growth of the various characters and the possibility for more growth. The pacing was also quite good; it didn’t drag out with unnecessary fillers.

What I didn’t like: I think there was at least one too many side stories. A workplace romance was just wrong, the chemistry wasn’t there, and it felt inappropriate. There was an extraordinary amount of drunkenness in this drama, more than usual, and was often used as a catalyst for people to overcome communication problems. Drinking appears often in K dramas, but this one seemed to go overboard. It’s one of the reasons I couldn’t give it a full 10.

My favorite type of entertainment is something that can distract you, and in the case of a romcom, make you feel good, but at the same time give you something to think about. This drama filled the bill for me.

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Wow!

This is exactly what the heart needs and wants.

The story flows perfectly. Everything is explained and everything is earned. It has a beautiful message, actually many.
The chemistry between all of the couple, whether it’s a breakup, falling in love, or maintaining love and friendship, is relatable and brilliantly done. The entire cast and crew must have really loved working with each other, because it was a pure pleasure to watch.

Not every moment is a happy one, but the moment that are meant to rip your heart out do.

This drama is worth every moment to watch and rewatch. Watch it once for the entertainment. Watch it again for the lessons.

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Realistic and fun!!

The story basically revolves around the love life of a dating coach and writer, yeon bo ra aka deborah...after having a rough breakup with her BF whom she wanted to get married to she met the ML lee su hyeok.
Bo Ra - she was the best character in the drama for me! the actress did a great job in portraying a realistic and complex character like bo ra...she wanted to have the perfect happy ending at first but through experience she matured and understood what really matters is what u believe in and if u want to do something just go for it...although in the first 3-4 episodes u might not like her for not following her own advice and begging for love...but later on she knew what she actually wanted n was confident all the way! n u have to agree most of her advises on relationship were logical and true...

Lee su hyeok - he was kind, generous and fun but he really didnt know how to express his feelings...i found him annoying at some points but overall he was nice and a good match for bo ra...he comforted her when she was down and was great as a friend...

Ju wan - he was FL's ex-bf and just one word for him - TRASH which he accepted himself too!

Yu-ri - she didnt have much role but still contributed to the story...she was neither a good person nor a bad one and got the ending she deserved !

yu jeong and jin woo - this couple portrayed the problems of married life so well! they were excellent friends to everyone around them and were cheerful and loving...

sang jin and his ex-wife and bang u ri - the ex-wife was a kind soul and an overbearing boss...loved her! sang jin was a great friend but i didnt like his way of dealing with relationships ...u-ri was the sweetest girl of all...she was innocent and loving but kind of unrealistic ..

bo mi and jin ho - a first i thought bo mi was a spoiled girl but she turned out to be soft hearted...they were a cute couple..

all the characters had their own flaws and plus points...this made the drama even more exciting !!!
overall - it was a perfect mix of life, career, relationships , friendships and love!!

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Because love is realistically anything but perfect.

Before I get lost with what elements of this series were absolutely my favorite let me say that, was this for the books? realistically I would say NO, but was it somewhat enjoyable, yes. Because let's face it in real life we don't run into the arms of the one we love, telling them we love them. We definitely don't want to text first, for the sake that I may seem too interested and We definitely delay the 'Iloveyou' s because by then we have given away our power and broken down our walls.
Now let me break it down here and there might be spoilers but

1.) Bora vs Deborah
This was an interesting take because all this was the same person, they were elements that split them apart, one hand a young vulnerable lady who has a strong desire to get married and start a family and on the other hand, a dating coach who just wants to prove her hypothesis about love to be correct, that the success story of love is marriage. This element about her was portrayed in such a beautiful way because this was her inner conflict, she wanted to be vulnerable and express her wishes but the side of her that always wanted to appear complete and in control would not allow it. This was also what caused the delay for her to start her new love too. This is a realistic approach to characters because in kdramas confessing your love is nothing, its expected and there is no hesitation. In real life humans are cowardly and tend to run away the moment they feel something towards someone, this hesitation was a realistic view on love in the real world, people are not single because they are ugly or lack personality but because we are scared to be ridiculed.



2.) Su hyoek's personality
For me he was quite complex to understand because of the character did a lot of back and Forths and to some extent it got tiring. This was also the reason why I had to wait till the end to see them together.

3.) The theme of love
The love in this film is far from perfect, and it has elements of reality in it.
The one thing I loved about it was the portrayal of being disappointed in love and one part is about Bora's break up.
It was not just a mere montage about being sad, but a visual representation of breaking down and someone had said that Bora's reaction to her cheating boyfriend was a bit farfetched and out of character, but I think it was well suited because she had built herself with this image of a successful love life and yes she was not in love with her boyfriend but she was in love with the idea of what they could be together and more so the happy ending she wanted to write. When her boyfriend decides to break up with her and tell her that she was suffocating him, that truly breaks her, her world comes crashing to her feet because she was in charge of the game, not him, if anyone would have been freely leaving it would be her. And suddenly all she knew about love was wrong and the confidence she had as a woman was gone too. Her crying to that extent made sense and this for the first time was not portrayed halfheartedly in this drama. This was the saddest part because unlike fictional characters they just get back up and make a comeback, but she had to really go through it all and found herself again.

Her friend's marriage, the one who is at the final and most celebrated stage of love, yet she questions if she truly enjoys being married and if marriage was necessary at all. Thinking about how her husband's demeanor has changed now that they got married all the while forgetting that she changed too. Her story shows that love change with time but that doesn't mean the love is not there, as you grow older love goes from big gestures of declaring one's love to simple things like covering your partner with a blanket after he fell asleep. Small things are love too.

CEO and his ex-wife
Those at the end of what was meant to be eternal love.
Love is about communication, and all they needed was to talk.
but I fell in love with Uri's character she was a breath of fresh air in this drama because everyone had complicated feelings towards love, but Her's was pure and straightforward she was definitely wonderful to see.


The FATED young couple. junho n bommi
Those at the very beginning of eternal love
One thing he said was he chose to believe it was fate otherwise I wouldn't have had the courage to pursue you. This was also another element, as wonderful as love might seem it scary and whether it be asking a friend to validate our feelings or wanting a sign, we all depend on external validation when it comes to getting courage to pursue love.


4.) LOVE IS ABOUT TIMING
Every couple displayed this. A missed chance is gone forever, and when you think it is too late, it's really too late.

In Closing I was not really rooting for the main couple because they were way too slow in realizing what love was, but I did stick around to see Uri and CEO. This was not particularly my cup of tea, but tea is great once in a while.

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Fiéis ao amor

"ainda assim, não vamos nos arrepender disso. "Como vivemos, mesmo sabendo que vamos morrer um dia, e como compramos flores mesmo sabendo que vão murchar, como ficamos tristes aos dizer adeus, sabendo que vamos nos ver novamente amanhã, como fazemos promessas que não podemos cumprir as vezes, como compramos coisas inúteis, somos verdadeiros ao amar em todos os momentos possíveis do fundo do nosso coração. Somos fiéis ao amor."

Eu tô sensível e chorei não sei porque nesse final. Eu coloquei expectativas bem altas antes de assistir BoRa e no começo foi tudo muito bem mas depois... Eu realmente fiquei feliz com o final, mas eu queria ter visto mais deles como casal sabe? Eles tinham uma química tão linda. O que mais me deixou feliz foi a BoRa ter se encontrado depois do término e como ela deixou o final do livro, fiquei realmente feliz com isso. O su hyeok finalmente libertou o coração dele pro amor, mas demorou tanto 🥲. Com o discurso do final, entendi que foram diversos tipos de amor, o amor de casados que é aquele que tenta até o fim e vê que pode dar um jeito, o amor de não desistir do que ama pelo Jin ho e a yoo ri, de acreditar nele que pode ser lindo, confortável e pode ser retribuído. E o amor dos dois que se encontraram e se descobriram no decorrer de tudo que aconteceu. Queria ter visto um amadurecimento maior da Bomi, gostei muito da personagem dela e do romance com o jinho mas eles escolherem casar foi o tipo de final que o drama iria dar, mas queria mais. Fiquei feliz com a Yu jeong e o Jin woo, a comunicação voltou pra o relacionamento deles.
Enfim, eu gostei do drama mas poderia ter sido melhor sabe? Achei que enxutaram muito, fizeram um pouquinho de drama demais. Enfim, foi ótimo, gostei de verdade mas não amei apaixonadamente.
Parabéns aos atores (vou ver tudo que o ator de su hyeok fez) e irei apoiar nos próximos projetos!

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What a little happy gem!

I’ve been longing for. Decent romcom for well, a long time! The last 12 months saw a number of good melodramas but not a single good romcom! Let’s face it, we need a room com more than anything when the world is going mad!

The story is light, yet gripping and with the right balance and speed - nothing was overworked and too stretched. They didn’t take the married couple or the office couple, nor the divorced couple too far and too cheesy.

The cast is so good and chemistry between the actors was very good for me offering the right punch of goofy and more serious elements. I’m really impressed by the male lead simply because I know the female lead from Gobling and other dramas and she is really good , but he is new on me as a strong lead. Watch your space, I recon he can deliver much more complex roles!
My only complain would be the role of the office admin - it was a bit too cliche and the character came across too childish to be believable for me.

The first film in a long time which will happily rewatch. More like this one, please!

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